Christmas will be here in a few weeks. Are you feeling stressed out yet? Thankfully, Steve and I have learned to cut out a lot of things that added more tension than they’re worth. Somehow it seems to defeat the purpose of celebrating the birth of the Prince of Peace when we crowd this great event with that, which causes unnecessary stress. So we’ve been working on trying to line our lives up with what we say we believe. If we SAY we believe it, then we need to live our lives accordingly.
With that in mind we’d like to share parts of an article that appeared in Marriage Partnership Magazine several years ago. It’s titled, Peace on Earth —and at Your House, Too …How to beat the stress of the season, written by James and Heather Sells. Here’s a portion of what James and Heather wrote (with more posted on the Today’s Christian Woman web site):
It’s supposed to be “the most wonderful time of the year,” but the strain of the four-week Advent season can test even the strongest of marriages. You’ll go to extreme lengths to make meaningful memories for your kids. You’ll try to blend three family traditions (hers, his and ours). Possibly you’ll travel hundreds of miles to visit loved ones. (more…)
Don’t Allow Tragedies to Split Your Marriage Apart!
The Bible says, “in this world you will have trouble” (John 16:33). It’s an established fact. And yet so often, despite the warning, when major trouble occurs we’re taken by surprise and are unprepared for the trauma that it can cause in our marital relationship.
It’s during difficult times that we need to be especially “on the alert” because of all the damage that can occur. The enemy of our faith will try in every way to pit us against each other so that everything is turned even more upside down than now —making any kind of recovery all the more difficult.
As psychologist Dr Gary Smalley warns: “Trauma puts us at the wall of conflict.” And from what we’ve seen in Marriage Missions, that especially happens in marriage. It tests the strength and resolve of the relationship more than most couples could ever have imagined previously.
“Every couple faces things they’d prefer to avoid —job losses, severe illnesses, financial reversals, deaths of close family members and many other such events. We call them crises, roadblocks, setbacks or tragedies, and none of these are terms of endearment. That’s because these storms of life place immense stress on us —and they also test our marriages. (more…)
- Steve Wright – November 30, 2013
There’s a war being waged against your marriage, and it’s something we need to be aware of and combat in whatever way we can. This is something that Cindy and I have been aware of for a number of years. The enemy of our faith would like nothing better than to get us to wage war against each other and ultimately, bring our marriage down. The same is true for your marital relationship.
The more and more divorce “casualties” and crippled Christian marriages there are around, the better it is for those who are working for the Powers of Darkness. There IS a war going on to attack our marriages —no doubt about it.
I was recently thinking of an analogy to explain this war. I was thinking of how a Navy War Ship is always in harms way when it’s at sea. That’s its job. Every sailor on board knows there are enemy subs, ships and planes that COULD attack them at any time.
So they train on:
(1) How to avoid those circumstances (to the best of their ability) and
(2) They train to know what they must do IF and WHEN they are attacked, to minimize the risk of loss of life or sinking their ship.
The comparative picture I get is that a Christian married couple, from the moment the vows are finished, this couple is in harms way for the rest of their lives together. And the enemy of our faith —the enemy of marriage will try to torpedo and sink the marriage at every opportunity. (more…)